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Choose The People You Surround Yourself With



“Judge me by the people I avoid” - Thinking Humanity


During the whole Corona Virus months, I don’t know about you but I felt it was time to stop and think about my life and what is important to me. I realised the people I spend time with can have a huge effect on my motivation, attitude and mindset. Is this the same for you? They can inspire and galvanize us; equally they can bring us down and suck our energy, I have a fair few energy suckers in my life and it’s time to get rid of them. I created the following short quiz and model for my new book, Stand Out, coming out next spring and thought it was the perfect time to share it, I did this myself and it was very insightful so give it a go. List 8/10 people you spend the most time with outside of your immediate family, this can be work colleagues, friends, business associates, etc. Give them a mark each out of 10 for each of them below. Helpfulness: 1. Important in your career/business. Score ( ) 2. Knowledge and skills you can learn from or use. Score ( ) 3. Have a good network they can introduce you to. Score ( ) Total score ( ) Attitudes/attributes: 1. Always positive, can do and uplifting, giving energy not sucking it. Score ( ) 2. Generous, caring, loyal, listener, empathetic. Score ( ) 3. Fun, cool, entertaining, charming. Score ( ) Total score ( )


High helpfulness/low attitude – Put up, shut up – It’s easy to moan about these types of people because they can be difficult to be around, but they are useful to you so why waste time moaning. Instead, think about ways you can be

more grateful and improve the relationship.


Low helpfulness/high attitude – Enjoy! – Don’t feel guilty about spending time with these people, they make you feel good so see them often and give them 100% of your attention when you are with them they deserve it.

High helpfulness/high attitude – Value – If you have one or more of these in your 10 you are really lucky. Value them and say thank you, you can't afford to lose them.

Low helpfulness/low attitude – Really? Why? – Do I need to say anything?


What does this tell you? Are you spending your time with the right people?

What changes will you make?

It can be really hard to make decisions about real people, yet life is short and if you spend time with people who are of no value and make you feel bad you will have less time to spend time with people you love or the ones who inspire you. I also found that it made me grateful for some of the people who might not be easy or even likable but who really help me so it also a positive exercise.

The new book contains a 30-day master class full of exercises and tips like this so watch this space and I will soon have more details of the publication date.








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